Monthly Archives: July 2010

the beauty countdown.

When I was young I thought of brides looking perfect, princess-like, and that it included a plethora of treatments and months of getting picture-perfect. This might include things like months of regular facials for perfect skin, acrylic nails with French tips, long hair in a styled up-do, and more recently in my mind, fake tan, whiter teeth, and weight loss. Now that I’ve reached this point though, I’ve realised they’re not essentials, they’re just what I thought was ‘the done thing’ since I was a kid!

Some countdown checklists advise we start the bridal beauty regime 5-6 months prior to the wedding! I’ve had maybe or 1 or 2 facials in my life so I won’t be doing those. And I won’t be having artificial nails, mine are just fine. I won’t be having a fake tan either, but a couple of my bridesmaids might want to.

What I am doing is: I am growing my hair, because I want to wear it up. I do want my teeth whitened, because they’re not as bright as bright can be. I am losing weight, or should I say centimetres, because I am not yet at my physical best.

That’s about it I think.

Did you, or will you, go into a full beauty countdown?

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the ring.

I love my ring. It’s yellow gold with a blue sapphire and halo of diamonds. It’s also a (smaller) copy of Princess Diana’s ring. I was on holiday with a  friend in Jaipur, India in November 2008 when I saw this ring in a shop – I emailed a picture of it to The Groom and he said ‘get it!’. I, of course, obliged, and spent the next couple of weeks guarding it while travelling around India.

But I’m having issues trying to find a wedding band that fits it.

The problem is there is no space underneath the crown-thing (sorry, I don’t know any technical terms when it comes to rings!) for a wedding ring to sit flush against the e-ring.

I’ve been to several jewellers, chain stores and boutique. One has suggested a plain gold band made very thinly on the top so it can sit under, but that might wear it away over time. Another has suggested a curved band to sit around it, but I feel that looks bulky.

 

With 3 months to go I need to decide ASAP! Any suggestions? I was originally thinking, ‘maybe I don’t need a wedding band!‘, but my MOH pointed out ‘the wedding band shows you’re married, you’ll look forever engaged otherwise’. The Groom said ‘but you’ve already got a ring! Why do you need another?’. Unbelievable 😉

The wedding ring is a tradition I want to keep, I just need to find one!

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adriano zumbo.

How awesome would a cake table full of Adriano Zumbo’s creations be?

Thank you to Not Quite Nigella and Masterchef for introducing me to his edible art…

The mighty croquembouche…

*All images from Masterchef

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freak out.

Aaahh Freak Out! Le Freak, C’est Chic!

I’ve had this song in my head for 2 days now, since I’ve realised there’s just over 3 months until the wedding, and the to-do list is looking a little long.

I felt so on track since all the big things were taken care of. But now it’s time to sort out the finer details, things that can only be done closer to the date. I’m sure it’ll be fine. Time is just flying by.

Things to do in the next several weeks:

  • Start choosing ceremony components
  • Find bridesmaid shoes and accessories
  • Organise my veil
  • Organise wedding rings
  • Choose a first dance song and book into dance lessons (ohhh yes, this is happening!)
  • Make thank you notes to attach to favours
  • Make or purchase place cards
  • Make a guest thumbprint tree
  • Groomsmen’s measurements need taking at suit store
  • Buy centrepiece vases

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bali-moon.

I can’t WAIT to go on our honeymoon. 

Relaxing for 9 days in Bali, cocktails by the beach, beautiful food, massages, the scenery…

I needed a quick pick me up on this winter afternoon.

And this is it.

 

 

 

I feel better already.

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invitations.

Invitations – done!

Along with flowers, stationary wasn’t something high on our budget priority list. We just wanted simple invitations, A5 flat white paper stock, no embellishments, bells or whistles. The Groom designed them (and a friend printed them) – too easy! We went with a simple vine design, and decided not to have the extra bits like RSVP cards (guests will RSVP via our website, I hope). I bought a simple return address ink stamp from Vistaprint (free, postage was around $10).

I dithered over the envelope choice for a while, ‘should I spend $80+ on fancy, shimmery envelopes, or $8 on plain white envelopes that might look cheap but are just going to be thrown in the bin after they’re opened??’. We went with the plain envelopes.

My MOH and I addressed the envelopes yesterday, over bubbly & cheese – it only took an hour for us to hand-write the 60 addresses (110 guests in total). So much quicker and easier than spending hours putting together layered DIY invitations (not that these don’t look beautiful, they’re just not our style).

I’ll be sending the invitations this week. I wonder if our friends will officially RSVP, or if they’ll assume we know they’re coming. I wonder if we’ll have to field awkward questions like “Can I please bring my new girlfriend?”. And I wonder if our ‘no kids under 12’ rule is going to cause issues.

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injecting personality.

I love Etsy. Who doesn’t?*

We were thinking of how to inject some personality and fun into the men’s outfits; to tone down the formal. The suits, vests & shirts are standard, so we can do this with their accessories – ties & cufflinks.

I found these cute cufflinks on Etsy – they might be winners! The guitars are for the Groom, and the others are reflective of what the groomsman is into. They’re a little quirky, a little daggy, but fun. We like them.

etsy seller: southernliving26

etsy seller: dabbledesigns

etsy seller: blinkphoto

etsy seller: TheCufflinkMaker

etsy seller: TheCufflinkMaker

etsy seller: WoodenTreasures

*Regretsy is good for giggles!

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a rose by any other name.

The florist we chose (Alexandra Wanless) runs her business from home, which meant her prices were the lowest of the quotes we received from various vendors. But she also had a great grasp of what I was after, and I do like supporting more personal, smaller businesses.

We decided on 6 bouquets of the same size (1 for me, 5 for my bridesmaids) as I didn’t feel mine needed bigger than theirs – I briefly contemplated not having one for me; and I’m not sure if I need a ‘throwaway posy’ as I don’t want to do the bouquet toss.

I was open to Alex’s suggestions (as I mentioned previously I’m not a flower person, I didn’t know flower names etc!). My main criteria is that they’re not overly structured or perfect posies. I want them more relaxed, looser. I love bouquets that have a lot of white and greenery, with interesting additions like herbs, nuts and natives.

We chose “natural stem posies of white large-headed roses, tetra nuts, greyish gum, rosemary and ribbon grass“. I’m not sure if we should add some creamy soft pink roses as well as the white.

We didn’t want flowers for the men’s buttonholes, so we’ve gone with “white tetra nuts, rosemary and lavender“.

These are some of the images I showed Alex as inspiration:

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mr and mrs george jetson.

I remember watching this show when I was younger, and one thing that stuck with me was how George and Jane Jetson were introduced as “Mr and Mrs George Jetson”. Why is she Mrs George Jetson? Does she not have a name? 

I am trying to find how the  tradition of the woman changing her name after marriage started. I haven’t had much luck.

One website has given the reason as:

Why does a woman take his name rather than he hers? Customs are habitual; traditions bestow significance and are performed for a reason. Women change their name.  Men do not.  Is this a custom or a tradition? Like many customs and traditions in modern society, male before female is Biblically based.

In Genesis, God creates Adam first and from Adam’s rib, his companion Eve. Adam and Eve together become a new entity, the couple:. Even though last names did not exist until this past millennium, Verse 24 signifies the primary meaning of a woman taking a man’s name.

I am not religious, and I don’t consider myself a feminist. But I have always struggled with the idea of changing my surname when I am married, for a couple of reasons:

  • My surname is Polish, therefore it is quite unique
  • My first name and Groom’s surname reminded me of Julia Guglia from The Wedding Singer at first (this was an overreaction, there are just a couple ‘el’ sounds in it which flow together)
  • It is MY name, and I love it, why should I change it?

If I hyphenated our surnames it would be extremely long, so that option is out.

Lately though, I have been feeling that it would be nice to share a surname, as a family unit, as a sign of being one in a way. I’m so hopelessly romantic in some ways, that I’m surprised it took me this long to feel this way about being Mrs Newname. Perhaps I’ll use my ‘maiden name’ as an extra middle name (on official documents, not in daily use). Extra long, but at least it’s always a part of me.

This website has a good pro-name change reason:

Taking his name will make your life easier, especially if you have children. You won’t have to explain to that perfectly annoying stranger at the kids’ school that you two really are Beth and Sam’s parents – and you are married – even though your names are completely different.

Plus, it’s kind of nice sharing a name with the man you love. There’s something very “connecting” about it.

What did you do when you got married, or what are you planning to do? Do you know any women who have kept their surnames?

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