I remember watching this show when I was younger, and one thing that stuck with me was how George and Jane Jetson were introduced as “Mr and Mrs George Jetson”. Why is she Mrs George Jetson? Does she not have a name?
I am trying to find how the tradition of the woman changing her name after marriage started. I haven’t had much luck.
One website has given the reason as:
Why does a woman take his name rather than he hers? Customs are habitual; traditions bestow significance and are performed for a reason. Women change their name. Men do not. Is this a custom or a tradition? Like many customs and traditions in modern society, male before female is Biblically based.
In Genesis, God creates Adam first and from Adam’s rib, his companion Eve. Adam and Eve together become a new entity, the couple:. Even though last names did not exist until this past millennium, Verse 24 signifies the primary meaning of a woman taking a man’s name.
I am not religious, and I don’t consider myself a feminist. But I have always struggled with the idea of changing my surname when I am married, for a couple of reasons:
- My surname is Polish, therefore it is quite unique
- My first name and Groom’s surname reminded me of Julia Guglia from The Wedding Singer at first (this was an overreaction, there are just a couple ‘el’ sounds in it which flow together)
- It is MY name, and I love it, why should I change it?
If I hyphenated our surnames it would be extremely long, so that option is out.
Lately though, I have been feeling that it would be nice to share a surname, as a family unit, as a sign of being one in a way. I’m so hopelessly romantic in some ways, that I’m surprised it took me this long to feel this way about being Mrs Newname. Perhaps I’ll use my ‘maiden name’ as an extra middle name (on official documents, not in daily use). Extra long, but at least it’s always a part of me.
This website has a good pro-name change reason:
Taking his name will make your life easier, especially if you have children. You won’t have to explain to that perfectly annoying stranger at the kids’ school that you two really are Beth and Sam’s parents – and you are married – even though your names are completely different.
Plus, it’s kind of nice sharing a name with the man you love. There’s something very “connecting” about it.
What did you do when you got married, or what are you planning to do? Do you know any women who have kept their surnames?