Monthly Archives: August 2010

awkward things.

The Groom and I have had differing opinions over just the one thing during the wedding planning: the registry / ‘wishing well’ thing.

He prefers cash gifts (to go towards a home deposit, a sensible goal!) and I prefer stuff (e.g. Wedding List Co can split big items like an awesome KitchenAid into several ‘shares’ 😉 ). Unfortunately we have limited space for stuff. So we need to buy a house first.

Whichever we preferred, I didn’t want to mention gifts with the wedding invitations. I didn’t want to mention it at all really, and so far I’ve left it off our website (I do love technology!) where all the other guest information is.

It is already costing our guests to come to our wedding, with everyone having to travel and stay in accommodation. I felt mentioning gifts of any sort, on top of the travel costs, would be presumptuous and possibly offend some.

I’ve realised you can’t please everyone though!

While not mentioning the gift thing might please some (or myself, at least), to others it is more of an inconvenience as they need to ask around or guess what we might like. I find it difficult saying ‘money’.

Frequent question: “Would you prefer cash or a gift?”

Me: “Er…”, followed by an awkward and less articulate muttering of ‘we appreciate you coming to the Hunter Valley for us, if you would like to give something as well we would prefer money towards a home deposit’

So with less than 9 weeks to go, I’m giving into peer pressure from the family, and will add some info on our website to point our guests in the right direction.

We will have an antique-style birdcage at the reception as a ‘card holder’ – they’re pretty, so I feel slighty more comfortable with it 😉 


Filed under Musings

timeless paper.

I fell in love with these gorgeous place cards from Timeless Paper many, many months ago…



Filed under Etsy, Reception, Stationary

say cheese.

I am eagerly awaiting the day of our menu tasting next weekend! I’m looking forward to sitting down with the owner / coordinator and working out the finer details like ceremony and reception setup, schedule for the night, etc. I think I’ll feel relieved and on track with it all after we’ve done this.

We’ll also be discussing our cake. Our package includes dessert so there was no option to serve wedding cake as dessert instead (to save money, or tummy space). I love baking and eating cakes, but I often see so much cake left uneaten at weddings that it pains me – what a waste, I cry! My table guests often give me their unwanted fondant, but then I feel sick from the sugar rush… Enough rambling about cake memories!

We’re going to have a Cake of Cheese. Why? Because we both love cheese, I love the look of wheels of cheese, it will be a type of supper later in the evening, and it saves us from having 2 dessert courses. I’m thinking maybe 3 or 4 wheels of cheese (perhaps some aged cheddar, creamy camembert, sharp blue vein… *drool*). The Chef is going to order the cheese and construct it into a ‘cake’, and it will be served with figs and lavosh. So when we’re hungry again from all the dancing, we’ll have platters of cheese. That’s the idea anyway.

images: (left) and (centre and right)


Filed under Cake, Reception


The bonbonerie / favours come under the budget area for us. We don’t want to spend a lot on potentially useless gifts that tend to get left behind!

I do love bonfavs. From stubby coolers, coasters, cocktail glasses, to photo frames and candles. I just love trinkets. I’m very easily pleased.

I especially love edible bonfavs. Almonds, chocolates, mints, mini bottles of alcohol, cookies, cupcakes, macarons, chocolate coated strawberries… There are so many options! It’s also extremely likely that guests will enjoy them, and they’ll be used (i.e. consumed).

How cute are these cookies that double as place cards?

At around $5 each, cookies were out of our budget. Making them yourself could be a fun project. I briefly considered it, but cookies are my kitchen nemesis so I didn’t want to DIY them.

I was newly inspired by gorgeous little jars of jams…

One of our favourite short-break spots is Berry on NSW’s South Coast. The Berry Treat Factory makes delicious jams, which are only topped by the best. mustard. ever.

As a ‘nod’ to our trips down there, we ordered 55 mini ‘three-berry’ jams and 60 mini honey mustards. They are VERY budget-friendly – their mini jams are $1.00 each, and the mini mustards are $1.20 each. Including the $10 courier, the total for 115 bonfavs was $137. Plus we get to enjoy the leftover jars (which is why I ordered extra mustard – I am ridiculously excited by how good it is) 😉

It’s such a relief how everything is coming together. I just need to add the fabric over the lids, tied with twine. I was going to tie a little ‘thank you’ note to each jar, but is it necessary?


Filed under Budget, Reception

fred + ginger.

The Groom and I had our first wedding dance lesson on Thursday night! I have grand visions of spins, lifts, dramatic footwork… I don’t think we’ll quite get there. But we’ll have fun trying.

It was so hard trying to choose a song. We don’t have “our song”. We wanted something not overly romantic or slow. I turned to Disney for some inspiration, and we liked A Whole New World from Aladdin, but luckily Wikipedia told me it had been done by Jordan & Peter Andre, AND Jessica Simpson & Nick Lachey. Awful.

It became a decision between Feeling Good by Muse, and Edge of the World by Faith No More.

We chose Edge of the World, and decided to ignore part of the lyrics. The music itself is just too perfect. After all, the first dance song doesn’t need to be the ultimate expression of our relationship, right?? It’s just 4 minutes…

So over 4 or more lessons, we’re learning a choreographed, slow cha-cha-cha style dance to Faith No More. I love it.

Now to the hard part. When is the right time to dance the first dance? Do we wait until we’ve filled ourselves with food and wine? I’d rather dance it at the start of the reception, but the dance traditionally signals the start of the actual party, doesn’t it?


Filed under Music, Reception

the d word.


My dress (if you’re reading this Dear Groom, don’t click the link!) arrived in store a couple of weeks ago, so I went to try it on today. It wasn’t the most positive experience. And that is a sad thing. It didn’t help that I was tired and a bit moody, which meant I was probably oversensitive about the ‘bridal consultant’ who seemed nowhere near as nice as they were before I’d paid 50% when I ordered it a few months ago. The shoulder strap kept popping off the button whenever I moved my arms, and the lining was tight. Damn! I couldn’t just stand there and smile comfortably, or proudly, at myself in the mirror.

Which brings me to the next D.


It’s such a common word linked with weddings. Look, I’m not overweight, I’m a tight 10 or comfy 12 (ha!). I’m simply not at my physical best. And yes, I want to be at my physical best on my wedding day, on the Bali beach honeymoon after, and all the years after that.

I’ve been struggling with motivation and commitment for the past few years. Laziness really. I was around 7kg heavier at our engagement party last July than I am now. I look at some of those photos and cringe a little. I don’t want to feel even a twinge of regret when looking at our wedding photos – at the nail polish choices maybe, but not at me. I’ve still got a little way to go.

Come onnn, surely I can get it together for The Big Day?!

So I’m just putting it out there. No more excuses. I’ve got to take it to the next level. With the nagging encouragement of my Super MOH and my Super Trainer, I’m taking a stand against the FOMO voice in the back of my head (‘but they’re having cake, why can’t I?’) saying NO to back cleavage*.

This isn’t involving radical diets, but all the good stuff – healthy eating, frequent, effective, and fun exercise, and cutting back on the alcohol (sad, but the beer belly pushing against the dress is sadder I guess).

*Disclaimer: I’m doing this for ME. Not because I feel pressured to be a skinny bride, and I don’t think brides should be skinny. I simply want to be fit, healthy and at my best – for me. I believe that can only be a good thing.


Filed under Attire, Beauty, Musings

a reading.

I just adore this poem by Oriah Mountain Dreamer.

It’s too long to have in its entirety as a ceremony reading, so we may just select a few passages.

The Invitation by Oriah

It doesn’t interest me
what you do for a living.
I want to know
what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me
how old you are.
I want to know
if you will risk
looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me
what planets are
squaring your moon…
I want to know
if you have touched
the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened
by life’s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.

I want to know
if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.

I want to know
if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations
of being human.

It doesn’t interest me
if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear
the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.

I want to know
if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,

It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live
or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me
who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me
where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know
what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.

I want to know
if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like
the company you keep
in the empty moments.

By Oriah © Mountain Dreaming,
from the book The Invitation
published by HarperONE, San Francisco,
1999 All rights reserved


Filed under Ceremony

that little blue box.

I knew I shouldn’t have touched it. I’m not the kind of girl who normally has any interest in Tiffany’s. Anything in that store is definitely not in my sensible price range. 

I just went to Tiffany & Co to buy a farewell present for a colleague, and I thought I’d see if any of their wedding bands sat nicely against my engagement ring. For fun, right? 

As luck would have it, there was one that was pretty much perfect. It is the best fit of all the many, many rings I’ve tried at other stores. It’s not overly expensive, but it’s just a plain gold band. I don’t know if it’s worth it. I could get one similar for less. It felt so dainty though. I felt sucked in to the blue. 


I need some frivolity now… 

I want loads of bubbles after the ceremony – I want to walk through a wall of bubbles! 😉 

 And after the reception, I want loads of sparklers (even though I’m a little scared to hold them myself)! 


Filed under Budget, Ceremony, Musings, Rings

the dining table.

I dislike it when reception tables are full of stuff. So much stuff all over the tables that I feel so cramped, shuffling around the many different glasses, plates, cutlery, napkins, butter, wine bottles, favours, place cards, menus, candles, table scatters, tall vases… aargh.

so much stuff.

What I love about our reception venue is how spacious and minimalist their dining room is. We don’t feel the need to add much to it. We’ll be having long tables, probably 5 or 6 tables of 20 (with the bridal party & partners table in the centre of everyone). Table centrepieces / decorations will simply be small glass votive candles, and 2 pots of herbs per table. I love living centrepieces – no, not like living fish (ick), but plants.

so much space.

We’re going to DIY these – and give them to family members after the wedding. Good ol’ Ikea has a wide range of pots, and The Groom loves gardening so he’ll pot the herbs – we’ve left it a bit late though so we’ll have to buy pre-grown herbs! I’m thinking rosemary – it’ll smell so good, it will tie in with the bouquets & buttonholes, and it works with our foodie/ rustic/ garden/ etc ‘theme’!

luscious herbs - by


Filed under Flowers, Musings, Reception

from partner to husband.

It’s my job to be organised. However, when it comes to my home life (i.e. filing important documents) I’m terrible!

We had a meeting with our celebrant in the Hunter Valley in June to fill in our notice of intended marriage, and the day before I was scrambling around trying to find my birth certificate (not the original, which was previously lost, but a replacement). I couldn’t find it.

I’ve just received my 3rd certificate in the post and we’ve arranged to finish the marriage forms when we go to the Hunter for our tasting! Hooray!

ANYWAY. This is what it’s all about. Finally being married to The Groom. The rest of the day is the icing on the cake (oh how I loathe clichés). Cheesy and soppy but it’s so true. I’m really feeling it this week 😀

The whole time we’ve been engaged I’ve rarely called him “my fiance“. I’m not sure why I feel funny saying it. It feels like such a statement word. So I call him “my partner“, which probably sounds weirder.

In 87 days I get to call him “my husband” and I’ll be “his wife“. I can’t wait.

The day after the proposal - June 2009


Filed under Ceremony, Musings