I often hear people say things like “50% of marriages end in divorce!” or “don’t do it!”.
I’m not listening to those people.
I can be quite optimistic*, with fairytale visions of our house with a ‘white picket fence’, the scent of freshly baked cookies drifting from the oven, flowers from the garden in a vase on the table, and many, many years later, a golden wedding anniversary.
I know the stats – the ABS says divorces are decreasing, but there were still 47,209 granted in 2008. I’m going to do all I can to have a long and successful marriage (i.e. this will be my only one)!
So what makes a lasting marriage?? Other than love, of course. I believe some of the key factors in any great relationship are: commitment, honesty, trust, communication, common interests, having fun together, having fun without each other, and regular ‘date nights’ (even once a month).
So if we keep making an effort (and by effort I don’t mean it’s difficult or unpleasant) in those areas, especially communication, then surely we will “cherish each other for as long as we both shall live”? That’s my hope anyway.
*Other words could be naive, old fashioned, living in a fantasy land, ridiculous